I’m known for a range of things, depending on who you ask. To some, I’m the guy who likes wearing fluffy ears (and a tail if I can get away with it). To others, I’m a big K-pop fan, particularly girl groups. To still others, I’m an ex-Evangelical Christian turned eclectic pagan, with a druidic bent.
These are all true.
I am, of course, not defined by just these things. I do other things, too: I program, I manage big data, I write, I sew, I do lots of other things I can’t or won’t mention here and the ones in the first paragraph I can’t even say are the main things that define me. Put simply, none of anything I’ve so far used to describe me is all of me. Or even most of me. I am none of them and all of them all the same time.
This is possibly an artefact of me being the sort of person who is interested in lots of things – I’ve described myself before as someone who has too many irons in the fire. So it’s passing annoying to be in a group that expects you to be first and foremost what you’re known to them for.
I guess it probably happens to all of us in some fashion. I kind of thought I’d left it behind after leaving the church because for quite a while (arguably too long), a large part of my life really was defined by my religious practice. Now… not so much. Oh very much not so much.